I am sure that you have seen enough movies to know
that the intercourse orgasm has an almost mythical place in our
culture. In the movie, the stunning handsome guy lays the perfectly
proportioned woman down and has sexx for hours, slowly and passionately,
before orgasming at exactly the same time as her. While this works well
on celluloid, the truth is that an intercourse orgasm, let alone a
simultaneous intercourse orgasm is actually a quite advanced sexx skill.
However there are some useful tips to make it a lot more likely that
you will have one.
Intercourse Orgasm Fun
There are a few
things that are needed to make sure that you can orgasm at the same
time. The first is that you need to be able to make her orgasm
reliably. At first you probably give her her first orgasm from stroking
and caressing her clitoris or G-spot with your fingers or tongue. As
she gets used to orgasming with you, you will soon discover that giving
her an orgasm with your tongue/ fingers first, then entering her makes
her far more likely to have an intercourse orgasm.
The Guy's Role In the Orgasm
In
this case, the tougher role is yours. Many men find it difficult to
tell when a woman has an orgasm. Therefore you will need to understand
her orgasm process and your orgasm process. Once you have given her a
couple of orgasms, you will start to see what an orgasm looks like for
her and how to predict when she is about to have one. This varies for
each woman, so enjoy the process of finding out all about her and her
body. Once you understand her unique arousal process, you can soon
predict her orgasm.
Making yourself orgasm requires a bit of
practice. There are two ingredients for men. The first is that you need
to be aware of your own level of excitement. Either with your partner
or by yourself, bring yourself almost to the point where you will
orgasm and notice how it feels. Usually there will be a distinct
pattern that happens before you orgasm and you will be able to control
this by either imagining something that turns you on to make yourself
orgasm (Also known as a trigger point) or keeping your mind as empty as
possible to relax yourself and bring the orgasm further away. The
images that make you more likely to orgasm are the really useful ones
as the key to having a simultaneous orgasm is being able to use these
images at the right time to push yourself into the orgasm exactly when
you need to.
There are a few other things that rob you of orgasm
control. If you are tired, stressed or excited, your orgasm control
will be very poor and you may not even be able to orgasm at all! On the
other hand on some days you will just find that your head is full of
sexual images and that you orgasm without any control. There is not a
lot you can do on these days and that is okay you don't have to blow
her mind every session (In fact, as I argued in my book, it is
sometimes best not to). Even the best sex masters don`t achieve
simultaneous orgasm every time they have sex.
Better Sex
Once
you have got the hang of these techniques, simultaneous orgasms will
become easy to perform. The extra rush of combined energy in a
simultaneous orgasm will make it so much better for both of you. Once
you combine your sexual energies and have one of these orgasms, you
will soon realize why the hero always has sexx with the heroine this way
in movies...